The Art of Procrastinating: Making Time for Ourselves and Our Happiness

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In our busy lives, we often find it challenging to prioritize ourselves and our own happiness. From managing career responsibilities to fulfilling family commitments, it seems like we are always running on a never-ending treadmill. As a result, we end up procrastinating when it comes to taking time out for ourselves. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons behind this procrastination and discuss effective ways to overcome it. 

The Enemies of Prioritizing Ourselves 

  1. Guilt

One of the primary reasons we procrastinate making time for ourselves is guilt. We feel guilty for indulging in activities that bring us joy and relaxation, especially when there are other demands on our time. However, it is essential to remember that self-care is not selfish. Taking care of ourselves ultimately enables us to be better equipped to handle our responsibilities and be there for others. 

  1. Perfectionism

Perfectionism can lead to constant busyness and never-ending to-do lists. We convince ourselves that we can only relax once everything is in perfect order. However, this mindset is unrealistic and keeps us trapped in a cycle of procrastination. Embracing imperfection and allowing ourselves to take breaks is vital for our mental and emotional well-being. 

  1. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

In our hyper-connected world, the fear of missing out is a powerful force that drives us to stay constantly engaged. We struggle to detach from social media, work emails, and notifications, fearing that we might miss an important update or opportunity. However, by constantly being plugged in, we neglect the needs and desires of our own selves, preventing us from finding true happiness. 

Overcoming Procrastination and Prioritizing Ourselves 

  1. Recognize the Importance of Self-Care

It is crucial to understand that taking care of ourselves is not a luxury but a necessity. Just as we make time for work and responsibilities, we need to allocate dedicated time for self-care and happiness. Remind yourself that you deserve it. 

  1. Set Boundaries

Establishing boundaries is essential for carving out time for ourselves. Learn to say no to unnecessary commitments and obligations that clash with your personal time. By setting clear boundaries, you can protect your self-care and be more mindful of your own needs. 

  1. Make Self-Care a Priority

Instead of viewing self-care as an afterthought, make it a priority. Schedule regular “me time” in your calendar and commit to it. Treat it as you would any other important appointment or commitment. By prioritizing self-care, you are giving yourself permission to be happy and fulfilled. 

  1. Start Small and Be Consistent

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and the same applies to incorporating self-care into your routine. Start by allocating short bursts of time for activities that bring you joy, whether it’s reading, practicing a hobby, or simply taking a relaxing bath. The key is to be consistent with these small actions to build a habit of prioritizing ourselves. 

  1. Embrace Imperfection

Let go of the need for perfection and embrace imperfection. Remember that it is okay to take breaks, make mistakes, and have moments of leisure. Give yourself permission to rest and rejuvenate without feeling guilty. 

In a world where busyness is celebrated and prioritizing ourselves feels like a luxury, it is essential to break free from the cycle of procrastination. By recognizing the reasons behind our procrastination and implementing the strategies discussed above, we can reclaim our time and make time for ourselves. Remember, happiness and fulfillment are within our reach if only we take the time to prioritize ourselves. So let go of the guilt, set boundaries, and start embracing the art of making time for your happiness.

We here at West Michigan Psychological Services encourage our clientele to follow these steps to have a healthier relationship with happiness and allowing it into their lives.